This is part of my series on What To Do When You First Need To See A Matrimonial Attorney While a divorce is the ultimate gut wrenching experience, it does not help your prospective attorney to hear about every time your spouse has hurt you during the marriage. Those discussions should be left for a trained therapist who can help with the impact of the emotional scars. A matrimonial attorney who, at times, feels like a counselor (not of law) needs to hear the facts, know about the assets, liabilities, expenses, the children and any other factor that will affect your case. As a result, it is in the litigant’s best interest to try and remove the emotional aspect of the case and look at the matter as a business deal. Although it sounds difficult, it works. In conjunction with therapy, you can take your case and look at it as a business transaction so that you remain financially afloat. That is one of the most important end results you want to occur in your case.